On this beautiful day my precious girlfriends and I all got together in the streets of Mamou. We all had the best time celebrating one of our most favorite holidays, Mardi Gras! We danced in the streets of downtown Mamou, had a few drinks in the local bars, and people watched as they were all dressed in festival attire. I must say, this visit to Mamou was definitely one of my all-time favorites! My sweet girls are like sisters to me, and each one holds a very special place in my heart. So when one of them is going through a rough patch, I’m down too. I know when I’m going through a rough time and can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel it’s refreshing to know people like these girls love you and genuinely care for your heart ache. Here are nine ways to help them or you push through to the other side.
1. If it’s NOT working now, it WONT work better for your future. People DON’T change (much)
2. It’s better to find out early in a relationship than to invest more of yourself in them. The longer a bad situation is the more problems occur.
3. If they don’t like/love you like you want, they are not the one for you. There WILL be someone that comes along that will love you like no other. Focus on yourself until then!
4. One of the things I have loved doing is, going to their house and bringing them wine, food, and having a nice chat about my own personal experiences. We usually cry together, laugh together, and usually end with a game of cards.
5. Get them out of the house! Period. Get them out and make them laugh a little. Getting them out usually gets their mind off of a current situation verses them being alone. If you can put a smile on their face, just once during your time together, you both have succeeded.
6. Get together with husbands, boys, people of the opposite sex to get advice. They are usually straight to the point and don’t play around with your emotions. Like a famous person once said, “he isn’t for you, move on”.
7. Let them know that time heals. Although it may seem like time is standing still. It does help and you do start to enjoy your life again.
8. Although all of the above does help, what does help is letting them grieve alone and allowing them to have space from you. But check on them, and give them space periodically through emails and text messages.
9. Lastly, tell them how much they are loved and tell them what special values they hold. Even if they don’t see the value yet, they will. And a little bonus tip is never allow them to compare themselves to anyone.
Kacie and the Krew